Long-suffering wife and mother is ready to move on

DEAR ABBY: I am living in total dysfunction with my daughter (32) and husband (75). I am retired and going on 76. My daughter will not work and is controlling my life. She has OCD and refuses medication. It’s so bad that she has become completely dependent on me. She makes me drive her and yells at me while I do. If she doesn’t get her way, she yells and calls me horrible names. The police have been called to the house in the past, but it only made things worse for me.