Sibling worried brother will flake on new job
DEAR HARRIETTE: My brother is moving to rural Vietnam for a year to teach English, and I don’t think this is a good idea. My brother can’t stick to any commitment to save his life, and this experience doesn’t seem like it is likely to go any differently. He gets excited about new opportunities all the time, but once the excitement wears off, he usually quits and moves on to something else. He’s switched jobs multiple times over the past few years and has even abandoned hobbies and volunteer commitments after only a few weeks. I’m also worried because this isn’t just a new job in the next town over — he’s moving halfway across the world to a place where he doesn’t know anyone. He doesn’t speak Vietnamese, has never lived outside of the country and doesn’t seem to fully understand how different life will be in a rural area compared to what he’s used to. Our parents think this experience will help him mature and become more responsible, but I’m worried that he’ll get there, realize he hates it and come home early and leave the school in a difficult position. Should I say something or should I just leave my brother be and have more faith in him? — Uncommitted DEAR UNCOMMITTED: Your brother is putting himself in a situation that will be hard to leave. Good for him. Be supportive. Remind him that it is a very different place from home and he should put his all into it. Offer to be a sounding board for him if he gets skittish. Be a cheerleader. Your parents are right: There is a chance that this will be the kick in the pants he needs and may begin a positive transformation. If not, he will have to suffer the consequences.