Minor squabbles lead to major crossroads

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband and I are experiencing a rough patch. At least, that’s what I thought it was. I am going through an extremely important moment in my career and education, and it feels like my husband hasn’t been supportive. As I was preparing to present my dissertation, he seemed increasingly agitated — picking small fights about dinner, or laundry, or finances — all things we truly never argue about. I was surprised, so I asked if he could give me some space until I’m over this hurdle. I just needed peace to complete my study; I am so close to the finish line. He was reluctant, but he agreed to stay at a hotel for a week. It felt good at first, until the week was nearly up and his mother called to yell at me. Apparently, he told her that he thinks we’re getting a divorce. This feels like a major betrayal over some minor disputes. Honestly, it feels more manipulative than real. Why would my husband say something so extreme to his mother before even trying to talk to me? — Feeling Betrayed DEAR FEELING BETRAYED: You are in an extremely stressful position.