Grandma chooses incense over granddaughter’s health

DEAR HARRIETTE: My mom has gotten into burning incense lately, and whenever I bring my 10-year-old daughter over, she has an allergic reaction to it. She starts coughing and sneezing and has even gotten rashes from it. I’ve asked my mom not to burn it on days when she watches my daughter after she gets out of school, but she says no because it helps her relax and she likes the smell of it. This has been frustrating because my mom is the one who offered to help watch my daughter after school while I’m at work. I’m grateful for the help since child care is expensive and my work schedule makes it hard to pick my daughter up right away. At the same time, it’s painful to see my daughter clearly uncomfortable every time she’s in my mom’s house.