Bride-to-be debates inviting BFF to wedding

DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend got married last year in Peru. She and her husband invited family only, wanting to keep the wedding small due to budget. When she told me I wasn’t invited, I tried to be supportive. I sent a gift, congratulated her and told myself not to take it personally. My fiance and I are getting married this year, and we have been saving like crazy so we can have a large wedding. Part of me doesn’t want to invite my best friend because I wasn’t invited to her wedding. We have been friends for more than 30 years — since we were little girls — so I couldn’t believe an exception wasn’t made for me. I keep thinking: If I wasn’t important enough to make the cut for her wedding, why should she automatically have a seat at mine?