Fiancee treats man more like a child than as a partner

DEAR ABBY: I’m engaged to a delightful woman from a foreign country. She’s a divorcee, and her 19-yearold son is doing well in college. She essentially raised him herself. Because of some spectrum disorder and ADHD symptoms, her son was apparently a handful. I am healthy, have multiple advanced degrees (including an M.D. and a Ph.D.), and have enjoyed a successful and lucrative career. I have raised six happy, healthy and independent children. I’ve worked very hard and have a substantial bankroll.