New boyfriend refuses to reveal his abode

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, and while things started off really strong, there’s something that’s been bothering me more and more: He refuses to show me where he lives. It feels intentional and calculated. Every time I’ve brought it up, he dodges the question or gives a vague excuse. The first time, he said his apartment was “under renovation.” Then a week later, he said his roommate was having family over and the place was “a mess.”