Violence, dishonesty are dark omens for couple’s marriage

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have not had sex for the last four years. I’m not a perfect husband. I have made my share of mistakes — not always telling the truth, texting other women — and she has her share of imperfections as well. She has hit me on more than one occasion. She has also pulled a gun on me and stole $1,400. And yet, I find myself putting all that aside and moving forward. I do love my wife, but right now I am at my breaking point. Do you have any advice? — AT WITS’ END IN TEXAS DEAR WITS’ END: Because you love your wife and want to stay married, TELL her that. While you’re at it, offer her the opportunity to work out your differences through marriage counseling. If she agrees, it will be a giant leap in the right direction. However, if she doesn’t, for your own safety, you two must separate. The relationship you have described is volatile, unhealthy and unsafe for you.