Communication troubles

DEAR HARRIETTE: I was in a clandestine relationship with a guy for most of this year. We hit if off after meeting on the street. We had a lot of fun together, but I always felt like I was putting forth more effort than him. One day I confronted him about not being more responsive, and he quipped back that if I wanted to be with him, I had to accept that he sometimes doesn’t turn on his phone and can go MIA — too bad if I don’t like it. That’s how he is. I was taken aback by his comment. He accepted no responsibility for not being attentive. That’s when I stopped being as available to him.