Couple can’t agree about holiday traditions

DEAR HARRIETTE: There is an ongoing issue in my relationship that involves a recurring conflict over holiday traditions. My boyfriend is passionate about us celebrating every holiday with his extended family, which often means missing out on traditions that are important to me. For instance, last Christmas, while he was busy with his family’s big holiday feast, I missed our annual tradition of baking gingerbread cookies with my nieces and nephews. He always RSVPs for both of us without consulting me, so it leaves me no choice.